You must go to a Borough City Clerk's office TOGETHER, at least 24 hours before the ceremony. The license is good for 60 days.
See: How to get a NY marriage license.
Know your future address for legal changes and bring Divorce settlement papers, if pertinent
If you are going to change your names, decide this in advance. See below.
If your ID is in another language, you may have to have it translated.
Single or double? (bride and/or groom)
Who will carry/ present the rings?
Not required in NY, but think carefully about this question before getting your license.
and Surname options in New York
and Practical Steps for Changing your Name
Preludes, Processional, Intervals, Recessional
Amplified? Outlets? CD backup?
Rehearsal and timing?
see see locations page, above.
Be sure you have a permit for any outdoor wedding, including Central Park. Popular spots may be full, and you need a permit for a group over 20 people (including officiant and couple).
Have a weather backup or golf umbrellas.
Pre-arranged seating, or Informal seating, standing
Formal = Ushers or reserved areas
Informal = Seaters, Welcomers?
Sight / audio lines for ceremony, music, pictures
PROCESSIONAL / RECESSIONAL
Groom's family, Mother of Bride & escort, Groom & party, Bride's attendants, children (flowergirl), Bride and parent/s or escort
ushers, groom and parents, attendants in pairs, bride and parents
Officiant, Groom, Bride
FAMILY/FRIENDS ROLE IN CEREMONY
Family/Friends Support (vs. traditional "consent" ) ceremony
Special mention for absent relatives
Offering of rings, candles, readings,
Witnesses (signing license)
Who will read? (Celebrant/ Couple / Others)
Placement / Timing /
Program notes for guests
Traditional / original / creative; may be different for Bride and Groom. Couples may write their own vows, or chose Modern versions.
Candle / Rose / Wine cup / Handfasting / Wine glass
May include charitable donations options
WEATHER / ALTERNATIVE PLANS
PHOTOGRAPHER / VIDEOGRAPHER INSTRUCTIONS
TABLE for signing license
CANDLES, Candelabra, taper to light candles
WINE (Decide on white or red!)
FLOWERS, flower petals
RINGS (who holds?)